My Biography

I was an intelligent person with black hair and brown skin and eyes and I weight approximately 145 pounds. As every individual in society, I have some achievements as well as some traumas. Some of the achievements I have accomplished with sleepless nights and hard work were being able to graduate with honors and outstanding GPA from high school and also being able to pass all my courses last school year since it was challenging and the road towards it wasn’t straight. On the other hand, one of my major traumas was to disappoint my parents by not being able to accomplish my short term goals.

Moreover, there have been certain occasions which have marked my life forever. For example, the happiest moment came last year when my family members along with my friends went to vacations at Cancun, Mexico, where we had unforgettable occasions. That moment is when we got to know that a family is the best gift God Almighty could gave us. By contrast, I had a life changing moment which was also the saddest one as well. I was eight when something strange happened and changed my life since then. This moment was when my mother abandoned her four children including me. I thought that she didn’t love me and saw life nothing but, fortunately my father counseled and cared for me until now.

Furthermore, the scariest moment I had was when my little sister got lost at Bacalar Chico, Mexico. I really got scared and thought that God would take away a second member from my family but, she appeared and everything was solved. I have also had the most embarrassing moment in my life. This happened when one of my classmates lost a cellular phone and when the instructor searched it was in my school bag. All my classmates laughed and thought that I was the thief.

In my family there is a person who has influenced my life and who is my role model. This person is my cousin. I am so fortunate to have him since he counsels and advice me of what is right or wrong. He always motivates me to continue and further my education since it will be for my own benefit. He is a Math teacher with a Masters Degree in the subject and he graduated with honors from a university in the U.S.

I am eighteen, a very dedicated student and presently the third son in my family. I am a person with great talents and who like to socialize with others. I like persons who socialize with me and my friends, who are optimistic and most important, those who know that we al human beings in this world are the same. But unfortunately, there are things I dislike and that are those persons who act and behave as if they are superior and those persons who believe that they don’t need help from someone else.

In addition, there are some activities which I love doing. For example, I love playing sports especially my favorite one “football.” I don’t know but I like it too much. The other thing I love doing is exercise. I like lifting weight but unfortunately I don’t have the resources to do it everyday as I would wish to do. Thirdly, I love listen to music, especially pop music. This music brings me to life and makes me enjoy it too much. Moreover, I am a person with great talent. This talent is about creating so much beautiful things out of wood. I know that my imagination is somehow very important in creating new things.

Furthermore, I am a person with great strengths and few weaknesses. Some of my strengths include: I am very good in dealing with numbers and calculations, I am very ambitious when it comes to my studies and I am very hard worker who help my grandfather. On the other hand, some of my weaknesses are that I am not good at presentations and I dislike doing assignments. I have noticed that I could use my first strength to help my grandfather by calculating the wages of his workers. Also I can use the second strength to obtain more in life until I get where I want to be. I could improve my first weakness by getting involved in more presentations and this will eventually lead me to get accustomed to it. Finally, I could improve my second weakness by doing my assignments.

Years have passed since I set my goals. I dreamed with my career and dreamed with my role in the future. Since then I decided who I will be, and that is a well educated person with a Bachelor’s Degree in Math Education. I have dreamed with it so many years. I dreamed with this Degree and that I would be a well known math teacher at a secondary institution.

I know that “The road to Success is not straight.” I will certainly encounter problems and obstacles that would try to quit me from my goals and dreams. I believe and know that my major obstacle that would try to separate me from my goals is money. I know that university isn’t that cheap, and unfortunately I don’t have enough resources. But this doesn’t frighten me because I’ve got a plan to overcome it. After from graduating from this tertiary institution I will work for two years and then continue my education.

After so many years of dedication and sleepless nights a reward would be given to me and that is my dreams would be accomplished. I would be an important person in society. I would teach students- my students some values and give them some of my knowledge in order for them to become successful in life. I understand that I can’t change the entire world but certainly I can change my students.

Defense mechanism/ Neurotic needs

The use of the defense mechanism and the use of neurotic need is very essential to identify how I behave, interact and socialize with other people. After I did the om-line test the result I obtained was denial mechanism and the displacement mechanism. The denial mechanism explains to me that I am afraid to the truth and certainly I denied it and can't confront it. For example, in the past I really couldn't face the truth of a certain situation, I usually ignored it and said that the statement is false that they are inventing so they put me in an embarrassment with other relatives. I believe that if I continue to deny the truth this will certainly affect my future.. In my case being single I would not have much problem in using the denial mechanism but in being married the denial mechanism should be used at all. The other defense mechanism is the displacement where the frustration is taken out on something else. For example, I always get scold by my past bosses because I always do in my own way.. In the consequence I didn't do the job perfectly where I took out the frustration on it so it didn't finished so good. I certainly believe that the displacement mechanism tries to indicate me that in the near future I will have some problems in the job and even get fired.
The neurotic need that I have is personal achievement and self sufficiency and independence. The personal achievement need means that I am always insecure where I would like to achieve higher goal.This can help me where I can have a good future and learn more. The other neurotic need is self sufficiency and independence, where I would always wanted to alone at some point. When I am performing a job I would always want to be alone to have a little more of concentration of these stage I would like to be independent and to not dependent on others.

My irrational and irrational thoughts

EVENT	MY IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS	RATIONAL THOUGHTS
Last time a black person tried to steel my cellular phone.	All black persons are bad and thieves	Not only by seeing a person I shall judge them
When I was about eight my mother abandoned me	I still love my mother and I think I still need her.	She has done something wrong to me so I am supposed not to love she cause she has done something bad to me.
Last test in mathematics I obtained a failing grade	I must be a dumb person because I fail my major.	Every failure will surely make me stronger
My girl friend left me last time and the worst thing is that now she is with my best friend.	I hate she no matter what	There are many young girls in the world so I should forget her and continue my life.
Last time when I was at the park a homosexual from my village tried to hug me.	I hate all those homosexual from all the world	I shall not judge them cause of their gender since they might help in the future.

Who I will be?

Years have passed since I set my goals. I dreamed with my career and dreamed with my role in the future. Since then I decided who I will be, and that is a well educated person with a Bachelor’s Degree in Math Education. I have dreamed with it so many years. I dreamed with this Degree and that I would be a well known math teacher at a secondary institution.

I know that “The road to Success is not straight.” I will certainly encounter problems and obstacles that would try to quit me from my goals and dreams. I believe and know that my major obstacle that would try to separate me from my goals is money. I know that university isn’t that cheap, and unfortunately I don’t have enough resources. But this doesn’t frighten me because I’ve got a plan to overcome it. After from graduating from this tertiary institution I will work for two years and then continue my education.

After so many years of dedication and sleepless nights a reward would be given to me and that is my dreams would be accomplished. I would be an important person in society. I would teach students- my students some values and give them some of my knowledge in order for them to become successful in life. I understand that I can’t change the entire world but certainly I can change my students.

Who I Am?

I am an intelligent and very dedicated student with brown skin and eyes. I am eighteen and presently the third son in my family. I am a person with great talents and who like to socialize with others. I like persons who socialize with me and my friends, who are optimistic and most important, those who know that we al human beings in this world are the same. But unfortunately, there are things I dislike and that are those persons who act and behave as if they are superior and those persons who believe that they don’t need help from someone else.

In addition, there are some activities which I love doing. For example, I love playing sports especially my favorite one “football.” I don’t know but I like it too much. The other thing I love doing is exercise. I like lifting weight but unfortunately I don’t have the resources to do it everyday as I would wish to do. Thirdly, I love listen to music, especially pop music. This music brings me to life and makes me enjoy it too much. Moreover, I am a person with great talent. This talent is about creating so much beautiful things out of wood. I know that my imagination is somehow very important in creating new things.

Furthermore, I am a person with great strengths and few weaknesses. Some of my strengths include: I am very good in dealing with numbers and calculations, I am very ambitious when it comes to my studies and I am very hard worker who help my grandfather. On the other hand, some of my weaknesses are that I am not good at presentations and I dislike doing assignments. I have noticed that I could use my first strength to help my grandfather by calculating the wages of his workers. Also I can use the second strength to obtain more in life until I get where I want to be. I could improve my first weakness by getting involved in more presentations and this will eventually lead me to get accustomed to it. Finally, I could improve my second weakness by doing my assignments.

EMOTIONAL IQ TEST

Emotional IQ Test

How well do you know your own emotions?

Understanding our emotional strengths and weaknesses is necessary to affect change and growth in our lives. Intelligence allows us to comprehend and internalize the world around us, but without emotional intelligence we are unable to handle the many pressures, roadblocks, and challenges that stand in the way of our goals. Awareness of our emotions is the first step to living a more balanced and focused lifestyle.

Know Thyself...

Knowing your emotional weaknesses allows you to alter your lifestyle to improve your social interactions, time spent with family, problems in your relationships, communication between friends, workplace attitude and efficiency, emotional stability, and many other daily situations in which your emotional aptitude is utilized and challenged.

Your Weakest Emotional Category is: Emotional Expression

Recognizing your emotional strengths is equally important. For example, strong assertiveness can be positive, assuming you are not domineering in conversations and relationships. Strong empathy can be beneficial, as long as you don't put the interests of others before your own well-being. Moderation is the key to successfully handling your emotions.

Your Strongest Emotional Category is: Assertiveness

Results for Diyan on 3/22/2010
Your Stress IQ is 93

Understanding your Report

There are four sections for each of the ten categories. Your Score means the calculated value of your answers for that category. Average Score is a dynamic number, for that category based on all completed tests for all users. Internal Stress Scale Rating represents a strategically evaluated personal rating for that category, based on our own algorithms and experience. Target Score represents your goal for that category. If you are not currently achieving the target score, you should be considering positive changes in your life, and then coming back and trying the free test again to see how you're doing.

General
This section dealt with topics that were general in nature and about your life as you are feeling now, in the recent past and immediate future.

Your Score 3
Average Score 15
Internal Stress Scale Rating Excellent (don't change a thing)
Target Score Below 14

Interpersonal Relationships
This section was about your relationship with the important people in your life such as your; parents, children, friends, etc.

Your Score 15
Average Score 14
Internal Stress Scale Rating Average (be very careful)
Target Score Below 14

Work Related
In this section we talked about your work atmosphere, whether it be working full-time, or be a full-time student and have part-time work or perhaps a stay home parent.

Your Score 20
Average Score 17
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14

Physical Health
This section dealt with your physical well-being, more specifically, how you feel about your overall health and the day to day functioning of your body.

Your Score 4
Average Score 18
Internal Stress Scale Rating Excellent (don't change a thing)
Target Score Below 14

Financial Situation
In this section we explored your outlook on money and financial security, and what importance you give to this area of your life.

Your Score 12
Average Score 18
Internal Stress Scale Rating Good (heading in the right direction)
Target Score Below 14

Substance Abuse
This section was designed to determine what your experiences are with alcoholism and drug abuse, and whether or not it's an active concern.

Your Score 8
Average Score 8
Internal Stress Scale Rating Very Good (approaching peacefulness)
Target Score Below 14

Sex Related
In this section we dealt with your feelings and reaction to the subject of sex, and it's various, possible meanings.

Your Score 12
Average Score 13
Internal Stress Scale Rating Good (heading in the right direction)
Target Score Below 14

Intrapersonal
This section was about your inner self, understanding your deepest feelings but more accurately, how your mind works.

Your Score 8
Average Score 19
Internal Stress Scale Rating Very Good (approaching peacefulness)
Target Score Below 14

Social
In this section we were looking to determine how it feels to live in your neighbourhood, and how you respond to day-today social activity.

Your Score 1
Average Score 15
Internal Stress Scale Rating Excellent (don't change a thing)
Target Score Below 14

Mental Health
And finally, how attitude and beliefs can make us healthy or sick, and how this important area of human psychology fits into the big picture.

Your Score 10
Average Score 10
Internal Stress Scale Rating Good (heading in the right direction)
Target Score Below 14



Completed on 3/22/2010
YOUR SCORE OPTIMUM SCORE
93

Your self esteem is at 88%


Congratulations! You have a high level of self esteem! And this is great because the world is your oyster! You are a ray of sunshine and should share your light with the world!

MY Values

I value having my father with life
I value that my mother gave me life
I value having a beautiful girl friend
I value having my studies
I value who I am
I value loving myself
I value caring for others
I value having interest in studies
I value becoming better in life
I value being respectful
I value on learning
I value loving others
I value having friends
I value helping others
I value having good health
I value walking and not having no special needs
I value talking
I value becoming more independent as days go by
I value being obedient to my parents
I value being dedicated to all things.

Questions for the movie Precious

1. What were the factors that contributed to Precious having low self-esteem?

The main factors that contributed to Precious low self-esteem were child abuse, sexual abuse and both physical and mental abuse. also that precious had a large imagination of being an important person will she think of not being abuse by the other person and she is mostly kept by herself and does not talk with other person. In other words she isolated her self form others. She was also aggressive when persons discriminated her. But also when her mother's husband rape her and her mother always kept reminding that she was the problem

2. What signs of low self-esteem did Precious display?

The signs that Precious display of low self-esteem were: she was always quiet,she demonstrated isolation in a manner that she was always by her self and she had an eating disorder(she eat in excess) She wasn't comfortable with who she was eventually leading her to imagine to be someone else.

3. What defense mechanisms did Precious use to avoid dealing with pain? Give examples.

-The defensive mechanisms that Precious used to avoid dealing with pain were displacement and reaction formation; for example, displacement, when she slammed the plate on the table, and reaction formation when she masked and disconnected from this world; for example, when her father raped her she masked though as if she liked it but it wasn’t so.

4. What neurotic needs did Precious over-use or display? Give examples.

-The neurotic need for affection and approval was which Precious displayed. For example, she always wanted to have a boyfriend who would like her as she is, and she was sensitive to rejection because she was fat. She feared anger and criticism from others. For example, when her mother told her that she was fat and ugly and that she wouldn’t learn anything in that teach one school. Also when her classmates discriminated her.

5. What helped Precious increase her self-esteem?

-What helped Precious to increase her self-esteem was that she had to express herself and taking out the deepest emotions she had hidden. She expressed herself through writing stories about her own life; she also got help from specialist on those areas. Moreover she increased her se4lf esteem when the teacher demonstrated affection and care towards her. After weeks the interaction among her classmates and teacher and the male nurse also helped her to improve her self esteem. Most important was her new born baby.

6. What signs of higher/increasing self-esteem did Precious display?

-She was happy, she smiled with her new friends satisfied, and she felt good about it and herself. She had more confidence and persistence on herself. In addition, the sign that displayed her high self esteem was when she decided to move apart from her mother. This indicated that she has now gain confidence of her self.

7. What did you learn from the movie?

What I learned about the movie was one should not let other things affect us in life. Also that no kinds of discrimination affects us. People might think that they are better but no one in this world is perfect and one as an individual should put aside these things and continue. In life there are many obstacles which make the way more difficult and we shall mot make them overcome us.

8. Would you recommend the movie to others? Why or why not?

I would recommend the movie to others because it shows how to improve our self esteem and how to avoid discrimination to other people especially to these dark skin and fat persons. These would teach them how to overcome this stage in life.