Sunday, May 9, 2010

My Biography

I was an intelligent person with black hair and brown skin and eyes and I weight approximately 145 pounds. As every individual in society, I have some achievements as well as some traumas. Some of the achievements I have accomplished with sleepless nights and hard work were being able to graduate with honors and outstanding GPA from high school and also being able to pass all my courses last school year since it was challenging and the road towards it wasn’t straight. On the other hand, one of my major traumas was to disappoint my parents by not being able to accomplish my short term goals.

Moreover, there have been certain occasions which have marked my life forever. For example, the happiest moment came last year when my family members along with my friends went to vacations at Cancun, Mexico, where we had unforgettable occasions. That moment is when we got to know that a family is the best gift God Almighty could gave us. By contrast, I had a life changing moment which was also the saddest one as well. I was eight when something strange happened and changed my life since then. This moment was when my mother abandoned her four children including me. I thought that she didn’t love me and saw life nothing but, fortunately my father counseled and cared for me until now.

Furthermore, the scariest moment I had was when my little sister got lost at Bacalar Chico, Mexico. I really got scared and thought that God would take away a second member from my family but, she appeared and everything was solved. I have also had the most embarrassing moment in my life. This happened when one of my classmates lost a cellular phone and when the instructor searched it was in my school bag. All my classmates laughed and thought that I was the thief.

In my family there is a person who has influenced my life and who is my role model. This person is my cousin. I am so fortunate to have him since he counsels and advice me of what is right or wrong. He always motivates me to continue and further my education since it will be for my own benefit. He is a Math teacher with a Masters Degree in the subject and he graduated with honors from a university in the U.S.

I am eighteen, a very dedicated student and presently the third son in my family. I am a person with great talents and who like to socialize with others. I like persons who socialize with me and my friends, who are optimistic and most important, those who know that we al human beings in this world are the same. But unfortunately, there are things I dislike and that are those persons who act and behave as if they are superior and those persons who believe that they don’t need help from someone else.

In addition, there are some activities which I love doing. For example, I love playing sports especially my favorite one “football.” I don’t know but I like it too much. The other thing I love doing is exercise. I like lifting weight but unfortunately I don’t have the resources to do it everyday as I would wish to do. Thirdly, I love listen to music, especially pop music. This music brings me to life and makes me enjoy it too much. Moreover, I am a person with great talent. This talent is about creating so much beautiful things out of wood. I know that my imagination is somehow very important in creating new things.

Furthermore, I am a person with great strengths and few weaknesses. Some of my strengths include: I am very good in dealing with numbers and calculations, I am very ambitious when it comes to my studies and I am very hard worker who help my grandfather. On the other hand, some of my weaknesses are that I am not good at presentations and I dislike doing assignments. I have noticed that I could use my first strength to help my grandfather by calculating the wages of his workers. Also I can use the second strength to obtain more in life until I get where I want to be. I could improve my first weakness by getting involved in more presentations and this will eventually lead me to get accustomed to it. Finally, I could improve my second weakness by doing my assignments.

Years have passed since I set my goals. I dreamed with my career and dreamed with my role in the future. Since then I decided who I will be, and that is a well educated person with a Bachelor’s Degree in Math Education. I have dreamed with it so many years. I dreamed with this Degree and that I would be a well known math teacher at a secondary institution.

I know that “The road to Success is not straight.” I will certainly encounter problems and obstacles that would try to quit me from my goals and dreams. I believe and know that my major obstacle that would try to separate me from my goals is money. I know that university isn’t that cheap, and unfortunately I don’t have enough resources. But this doesn’t frighten me because I’ve got a plan to overcome it. After from graduating from this tertiary institution I will work for two years and then continue my education.

After so many years of dedication and sleepless nights a reward would be given to me and that is my dreams would be accomplished. I would be an important person in society. I would teach students- my students some values and give them some of my knowledge in order for them to become successful in life. I understand that I can’t change the entire world but certainly I can change my students.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Defense mechanism/ Neurotic needs

The use of the defense mechanism and the use of neurotic need is very essential to identify how I behave, interact and socialize with other people. After I did the om-line test the result I obtained was denial mechanism and the displacement mechanism. The denial mechanism explains to me that I am afraid to the truth and certainly I denied it and can't confront it. For example, in the past I really couldn't face the truth of a certain situation, I usually ignored it and said that the statement is false that they are inventing so they put me in an embarrassment with other relatives. I believe that if I continue to deny the truth this will certainly affect my future.. In my case being single I would not have much problem in using the denial mechanism but in being married the denial mechanism should be used at all. The other defense mechanism is the displacement where the frustration is taken out on something else. For example, I always get scold by my past bosses because I always do in my own way.. In the consequence I didn't do the job perfectly where I took out the frustration on it so it didn't finished so good. I certainly believe that the displacement mechanism tries to indicate me that in the near future I will have some problems in the job and even get fired.
The neurotic need that I have is personal achievement and self sufficiency and independence. The personal achievement need means that I am always insecure where I would like to achieve higher goal.This can help me where I can have a good future and learn more. The other neurotic need is self sufficiency and independence, where I would always wanted to alone at some point. When I am performing a job I would always want to be alone to have a little more of concentration of these stage I would like to be independent and to not dependent on others.

My irrational and irrational thoughts

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MY IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS

RATIONAL THOUGHTS

Last time a black person tried to steel my cellular phone.

All black persons are bad and thieves

Not only by seeing a person I shall judge them

When I was about eight my mother abandoned me

I still love my mother and I think I still need her.

She has done something wrong to me so I am supposed not to love she cause she has done something bad to me.

Last test in mathematics I obtained a failing grade

I must be a dumb person because I fail my major.

Every failure will surely make me stronger

My girl friend left me last time and the worst thing is that now she is with my best friend.

I hate she no matter what

There are many young girls in the world so I should forget her and continue my life.

Last time when I was at the park a homosexual from my village tried to hug me.

I hate all those homosexual from all the world

I shall not judge them cause of their gender since they might help in the future.